abusive relationships, Counseling, crazy-making behaviour, Domestic Violence, dysfunctional relationships, Emotional and Psychological Abuse, mental cruelty, Narcissism, narcissistic abuse, Psychology, Relationship Problems, Relationships, Spiritual Wounds, Verbal Abuse
When someone delivers a physical blow, no one questions whether or not damage has been done to the victim, and no one tries to deflect the blame from the perpetrator. The bruises, scratches and broken bones are there for all to see.
Until relatively recently, abusers have been able to hide behind the smokescreen provided by the societal perception that ‘sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me’. Of course, verbal, psychological and emotional abuses go well beyond name-calling, and yet, victims of this most insidious and devastating form of abuse face an uphill battle when it comes to being taken seriously. Already in a depleted emotional and cognitive state, with energy levels at a lifetime low, they rarely have the wherewithal to pursue understanding, let alone deliverance, from their personal hell.
Legislation however, is beginning to catch up with the truth. There’s a long way to go yet but the first seeds have been sown, at least in my own county – Australia. Most other nations are lagging a long way behind.
But I’ll save the legislative changes for another post. Today, I want to shed a little light on what emotional/verbal abuse victims have known for millenia, and which is only now being backed up by the latest research from neuroscience. To put it in very plain English, recent studies have proved that the brain changes that occur as a result of physical abuse are exactly the same as the changes that occur as a result of emotional, verbal and psychological abuse. In other words, the source of the abuse doesn’t matter. The brain encodes it the same way, regardless. The bottom line is that all abuse is physical.
That means the long term effects are identical. Well … almost. It has also been established that only one form of abuse consistently leads to Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder(CPTSD). Surprisingly, it’s not sexual or physical abuse. It’s our old foe – emotional, psychological and verbal abuse. Although physical and sexual abuse are usually accompanied by emotional control and abuse, on their own they don’t lead to long term CPTSD. Emotional/verbal/psychological abuse however, is a reliable predictor of CPTSD without any other form of abuse being present. It’s a sobering thought, and something few therapists or authorities are aware of.
Knowledge is empowering. Spread the word.
More on Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in a future post.
Thanks Miss Min,
I’ve undergone +_25 years of psychological abuse by two highly stressed out, egocentric individuals, in a highly charged and stressful work environment, Unfortunately over this period much of my work has involved these two, upon which I’ve been dependent for must of my income.
The way I’ve best handled it, to the best of my ability, is to work on my own mind using my Buddhist Practice and various self help techniques. It has not being easy but has helped enormously, and I notice has even rubbed off on these two people for the better!
I’m hoping to record this particular journey in my website at some stage.
Best Wishes on your own situation!
Miss Min said:
Thanks Shawn. I’ve just had a look at your own website and hope to check in regularly. You bring a significant amount of life experience and wisdom to your words. I can’t seem to find a way to ‘follow’ you though but I’m not that tech savvy. Any way I can ensure I get your posts regularly? Many thanks for stopping by.
Thanks for the kind words and request to follow my site. To tell the truth I’ve really dragged my heels about working on it, I also at times struggle with he technical side and changing to new hosts recently has just complicated matters.
Once I get working on it again (which people like you inspire me to do!:) I’ll definitely update you and even Link your site if you like. Best Wishes
Pieces of Bipolar said:
Reblogged this on Pieces of Bipolar and commented:
Abuse is abuse is abuse….
“To put it in very plain English, recent studies have proved that the brain changes that occur as a result of physical abuse are exactly the same as the changes that occur as a result of emotional, verbal and psychological abuse. In other words, the source of the abuse doesn’t matter. The brain encodes it the same way, regardless. The bottom line is that all abuse is physical.”
Pieces of Bipolar said:
Interesting, and most important, validating. Sheds a whole new light on things for me. Thank you so much for posting
Miss Min said:
Thank you for the reblog! I hope my few words may help some others also. Isn’t it great that neuroscience is catching up to what we emotional abuse victims have suspected all along? It really is validating and gives us some kind of credibility to the way we feel, the habits we find difficult to break, the patterns we get locked into, unproductive thinking that just around and around and around inside our heads and the feeling that we simply aren’t okay, emotionally, spiritually or physically. I’ll look further into the topic to see what else I can dig up. Love and light.
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